I am sorry I haven’t been in touch lately. We received Halloween goodies from Angel Amy (www.chemoangel.com). The kids enjoyed them quite a bit.
I have been down in the dumps as the holiday approaches and really don’t want to do anything. My sister is pushing me to come to my moms for the holiday and I am not quite I am up to it. I usually cook and bake bread. Last Christmas was the first time we didn’t bake cookies and give them to family and friends since we started the tradition because Ne-Ne was sick. I am not sure I am going to be up to it without Ne-Ne.
I am house shoping right now and hoping to find something to suit our needs and wants soon. I want a fireplace, basement and wall oven. Most in my price range need significant repairs which is something I can’t do. So I am just praying and looking.
School for me and the girls are going well. I have been quite grumpy lately and a good friend Sumer bought me to task on it. I have been holding so much in. I want to cry but rarely have a place or time to do so. I want to be comforted but can’t seem to find any. I think I am depressed and am considering meds but not too sure about that. My hair is falling out, my weight is up and I sleep way more then I should.
I am usually a Christmas pig. I love putting up the decorations, buying gifts, etc. Even being on a budget never stopped me. Now I just cant get into the spirit. I feel almost guilty for having fun without her.
Last night Doozie built a fort with empty hampers, blankets and other furniture in the living room. I was happy that she was playing by herself using her imagination but so sad because I remember Taga, Ne-Ne and Doozie doing this just a few short years ago.
The other day Doozie had a picture of Ne-Ne and she was playing pretending the picture was Ne-Ne. I ache for my babies. Taga talks about Ne-Ne on her MySpace page and how Ne-Ne was her best friend and the only person who understood her. Ne-Ne’s love was so unconditional. She was accepting of all of us faults and all.
The online support group thru yahoo for bereaved parents of brain tumor children helps quite a bit. I wish they had some sort of camp or retreat for parents whose children died from cancer. I think its different then when your child passed in an accident or some such. (Although the pain is there no matter) With cancer you have devastating news but hope that there’s a cure. You fight for many years of fighting, for some remission, and then relapse, then death and for others there is no remission before death. To go from caregiver and adapting your life to that fight knowing you’ll sacrifice anything for your child to losing him or her you wonder sometimes where you went wrong. You look for blame where there is none wondering should of could of. Was it the fall off the bed at 1 or standing in front of the microwave before I caught her and told her to move stop watching the food cook its not good to stand there.
In the end I know what the Bible tells me and what my faith says that our birth and death is already written. So if not cancer it would have been something. Yet the pain isn’t lessened. The belief that this is for a purpose doesn’t make sense. What kind of plan involves taking a sweet innocent child from their mothers loving arms? Why not a child who is going to group to be a murderer or rapist? Why my baby who wanted to be a teacher and help the poor kids?
I’ll never know these answers not here in this life. Once I’m in the next life I know I won’t care anymore because since I missed so much of her life I will be trying to catch up and hug and love on her for the times I missed.